What do I always do in these situations?
What runs in my family?
Am I capable of change?
When you start to become more aware of your narratives (e.g. internal voices telling you whatever), you can start to redirect them – that is, redirect your attention, and thus you spend your energy and efforts more consciously in this moment.
What are my goals?
How do I act now?
Can I shift my focus towards the constructive today?